Breathe.

A beautiful little film in which children guide us to soothe our bodies and brains through breathing.

We all get into stressed and distressed states for so many reasons. It is absolutely normal, and totally unavoidable. Often we try to push down our stress or anger without paying attention to it. This can be very stressful and also leads us into interactions with others that are ‘charged’ with that stressed or angry energy, sometimes or often, leading to more stress because now we are interacting from a charged “fight or flight” state within our body.

One thing I love about this little film is that the children describe their physical sensations that let them know they are angry. They pay attention to their body’s “talk” because something else is needed when the body cues us to stress/distress.  Whenever we are in a distressed state, sensing our heart rate go up, or we’re breaking out in a sweat, or we hear our selves yelling, our brains and nervous systems are not settled, not balanced, and the best thing we can do for ourselves (and those we are with) is to return to a settled state. Breathing is a powerful way to move toward calming and settling our nervous systems.

The reward for learning to tune in to your nervous system and those around you can be a greater sense of solidness, connection, support, and good energy for the people and things you value.

Contact me if you would like to explore doing therapy together.

 

“Empathy fuels connection… ” Brené Brown

Brene Brown presents us with a REALLY useful cartoon that spells out empathy and how it is different from sympathy. She identifies four aspects of empathy:

  1. Take the perspective of the other.
  2. Stay out of judgement.
  3. Recognize emotion in the other and communicate it.
  4. Feel WITH people.

I agree whole-heartedly! When we can offer this way of being with the significant people in our lives we give them a great gift of safe connection, allowing them to be more themselves.

If you would like to explore working together in therapy, please feel to contact me.

Poem – For a New Beginning by John O’Donohue

For a New Beginning

In out-of-the-way places of the heart,
Where your thoughts never think to wander,
This beginning has been quietly forming,
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.
For a long time it has watched your desire,
Feeling the emptiness grow inside you,
Noticing how you willed yourself on,
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.
It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the grey promises that sameness whispered,
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent,
Wondered would you always live like this.
Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream,
A path of plenitude opening before you.
Though your destination is not clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is one with your life’s desire.
Awaken your spirit to adventure;
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk;
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.

John O’Donohue