Couples Counselling / Marriage Counselling in Burnaby
We work with all couples, at every stage of relationship. You may be considering couples counselling or marriage counselling after a challenging patch in your relationship. You may be fighting, feeling disconnected, or like you lost your best friend. It can be scary to look at your partner and not remember feeling close. It is especially hard to look at your partner and feel like they don’t see or hear you. You may all too often feel the need to be ‘on guard’.
Understanding ourselves in relationship is extremely challenging. It is common to be unaware of how our own ways of relating are affecting our relationship with our partner. Much of how we communicate or behave can seem beyond our control and be outside of awareness. Couples therapy will help you find your blind spots and grow into the best partner you can be while being true to yourself.
Our approach to working with Couples:
We ‘tune in’ to both partners’ experiences in order to understand the needs, longings, and patterns of relating that you and your partner each bring to your relationship. Relationship difficulties often stem from patterns that were learned in the past as a means of coping. Negative repetitive cycles can leave partners disconnected and at an impasse, or in the turmoil of conflict. We truly believe in the real potential for growth and building new patterns together.
We have a calm, non-judgemental and warm presence which supports couples to feel heard and to gain empathy for each other so that they can free themselves from the painful snags, barriers, or breakdowns in trust and safety that they experience. We're also ready to connect and assist with the intense emotional distress that couples may be struggling with.
While practicing from an attuned presence, we bring a relational and embodied approach that is informed by ongoing learning in relational neuroscience and attachment theory. Your therapist will focus carefully on both of you and emotional safety. This is a process which is both integrative and emotionally regulating. Our intention is to support your capacity for wholeness, authenticity, and connectedness with each other.
We have, and continue to train extensively in the ways that our early relationships effect the development of our nervous systems, how we manage emotion, and how comfortable or uncomfortable we are in connection with others.
We are consistently inspired by the couples who place their trust in us and allow us to support them to turn toward each other to deeply heal their connection, as well as attending to deep and lasting personal growth for each partner.
Do you feel alone, stuck or misunderstood by your partner?
Do you feel exhausted from the cycle of arguing; mixing between blaming and defending?
Do you feel threatened / emotionally unsafe / on your guard in your relationship?
Does understanding your partner seem out of reach?
Do you or your partner avoid conversations that need to happen because one or both of you feel too anxious?
If yes, Couples Therapy may be helpful for your relationship.
In working with Couples we are dedicated to:
Presence and Accountability
Slow Down Conflict
Explore and Understand
Heal and Connect
“A rising tide (of empathy) lifts all boats”
- David Shaddock